What happens as you walk down the sidewalk and see a cute girl walking towards you? You are out on the streets of New York City just running a few errands. Yet, out of the crowd of dull faces she emerges like a light. She’s at one end of the sidewalk and you’re walking towards her from the other end. Before you two meet at the middle of the sidewalk how do you feel about introducing yourself? Are you going to see her again under your own terms? Are you going to wait for some miracle second chance meeting?

There are a few points you’ll need to incorporate into your arsenal of game in order to achieve your intended outcome. I’ll give you some tools to help make things happen rather than waiting for things to happen.

Eye contact will allow you to hold her attention. You can lock eyes with her from down the street and wave. If you guys get close to each other and lock eyes, put your hand out and introduce yourself. Make sure to smile initially to demonstrate a positive frame. Holding eye contact and breaking it at certain intervals to relieve tension demonstrate experience.

Smile to show that you are not needy. If you walk up and introduce yourself and look like you’re having a bad time than what does that convey? It conveys neediness. It indicates to the girl that you have no emotional outlets and that you need her to fill that void. It’s an intuitive decision read by our unconscious minds that make first impressions lasting.

Body Language is also huge in generating attraction during an initial meet. Have your shoulders back and down. If you slouch you will tend to look unsure of yourself. If your hands are in your pockets you will come off as being insecure. Speak with your hands and emphasize points by using hand gestures. You can watch anyone with attractive qualities and mimic their hand motions; such as comedians, actors and musicians.

Tonality which is engaging will draw her into conversation with you. If you speak softly than you risk ruining the moment that could be created between you two. Speaking too softly will only amplify the fact that there are people around. Pull her out of her everyday routine and keep her engaged with tonality that fluctuates and ends with conviction.

The difference between meeting women in the night as oppose to meeting them in the daytime is simple. People need a reason as to why you came over to speak to them during the day. It is alright to initiate a conversation by asking for directions but how do you keep her engaged? Tell her the truth. “I didn’t really need directions; I just thought you were cute…” This will give you enough time to talk about recent topics of interest, banter, and give you reason as to why you should get her number.