"When you want a guy to kiss you, how do you let him know?"
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For me, being aware of what is really going on below the surface of verbal communication really changed how I perceived myself and others. Before I started looking for signs of whether or not I was able to kiss a girl I didn’t look for anything. In fact I just assumed she didn’t want to kiss me. What I would do is log the amount of time I spent in really close proximity to her. Like if we were dancing and I was really close to her face for a few minutes without backing off, then I knew she would most likely be willing to kiss me.
What I really remember was that when I was drunk I would just walk up to a girl and kiss her. It really surprised me the way I would act. It was like somehow I knew these girls liked me and wanted to kiss me. I feel as if as men we aren’t aware of the subtle body language hints women give to us in order to confirm her attraction towards us. We feel it, but most of us don’t believe it. Either it’s because we don’t believe we deserve the best in life or we just haven’t learned to trust our intuition-feelings-unconscious minds (which most women have). I believe it’s for good reason men don’t rely on ‘reading body language’.
A man should be a man. In the simplest way put. I feel the easiest way to get over this limiting belief is by changing it. Instead of believing that you have to ‘see it to believe it’ your knew mindset should be “I have to believe it to see it”. This will allow you to believe that she wants the kiss, then you may start to notice the signs, and even before that you should already be making the move. Be willing to ‘pull the trigger’ as some call it. They say “You miss 100% of the shots you never take”. This is your new mantra.
What can you look for? Constant eye-contact. If she holds eye-contact and doesn’t break it, then she feels comfortable with you. You are going to have to be able to hold contact as well, because if you break it you will lose her test and ultimately be filtered out as most men have. Also, be aware of how much you have touched her. If you are holding her hand then it is more than likely she feels comfortable enough for you to go on. Here a few simple (not set-in-stone) guidelines to follow.
- Make sure you have held her hand prior. - You will feel uncomfortable and so will she if you haven't touched yet.
- Your Hesitation = Her Reservation. - If you doubt yourself, so will she.
- Don’t wait until the end of the date. She expects it, spontaneity is an attractive trait
- Lean-in 90% of the way and hold it. Just like in the movie 'Hitch'
- If she doesn’t want to kiss you - Smile and change subjects. - Don't get angry or over-explain yourself
