Have you ever felt uncomfortable when someone felt nervous or acted awkward around you? The reason behind this is that we are all able to recognize unconsciously through body language, another person’s state of mind or emotion. If another person unconsciously reads that I am a happy person they can associate that within themselves and in-turn allows them to mirror my state of emotion. How do you get into a positive state of being and allow yourself to have a good time? Discussing meeting people during the daytime many guys are dreading the initial introduction. I’ve touched lightly on this subject before but it’s easier said than done.

Even I, at times can’t make an approach due to my state of daze I enter while my mind wanders. Especially if I’m having an issue at work or a problem I need to focus or take new perspectives on. Yet, I was out with a client this past week and had a great example of how being in a positive state allowed me to enter a state of flow. By a ‘state a flow’ I mean a situation in where I find myself speaking freely without putting much thought into it and I am essentially impressing myself, (since I’m putting together brand new stories and points) more than I am impressing the person I am interacting with. The first group of people I approach while out, can be understood to be unreceptive to my introduction. Though this is rarely the case, I can say it is fair that, by the third person or group I approach I am in a high energy and playful state. By this time I have no need to put my hands out or even verbalize much. Instead, to catch the attention of an interesting person I’ll proceed to make solid strong eye contact, smile and then say “Hi”. From there on, I can give reason to why I found this person interesting and lead the conversation into the direction I so choose.

Let this be a lesson to you, if you are going out to meet new people and work-out your social muscles. After you are smiling, feeling energized or just happy to be meeting new people this is the time to try out new behaviors. Make strong eye contact and lure people in with your positive energy and they’ll be sure to reciprocate. Especially when in a positive state, allow yourself to slow down the interaction and enjoy the silence and the sexual tension solid eye contact creates. Next post will be concerning eye contact.