I was listening to one of the best sales guru's audio tapes today and heard something I've heard plenty times before. It never gets old and its reinforcement is really uplifting. Brian Tracy said, and I quote “You become, what you think about most of the time”.

By thinking about what it is that you want and how to get there, you are allowing yourself to leave behind any doubt that you cannot achieve your goals. It is super important to talk about your goals. Talk about your goals to everyone all day. Soon enough, these goals will be the achievements you've become proud to have accomplished. For instance there was a whole year of my life I spent meeting people more often that usual. I went out and met as many people as possible while I was living in Miami.

I spoke with everyone I met about the things that I enjoyed most out of my life. At that time I had dreams of traveling and writing. I told everyone I met that I wanted to live in New York rather than just visiting for a week or two. Long story short but, I initially came up to New York for vacation and happened to had meet the coaches at The Art of Charm. On my trip back to the airport to catch the departing flight back to Miami me and my cousin got into a car accident. I ended up staying for a few extra weeks and gaining a critical role in the company after working as an unpaid intern.

Today's homework is to go out and make sure that no matter how outlandish or ridiculous your goals may sound to you now make them known. Put them out into the universe by verbalizing them. Just make sure that you are overtly optimistic.

Growing up, I was being told who I shouldn't be making friends with. More of often than I was told what to do I was instead, told what not to do. Drawing attention to what it is you don't want or don't need is what we call a self-fulfilling prophecy. You live up to your own expectations. Your beliefs create your thoughts, your thoughts create your actions, your actions create your habits and your habits determine your character. Ultimately, your character is what determines your destiny.

It's a form of self hypnosis. When you tell yourself over and over again that you don't want to be overweight anymore being overweight is what the mind is being attracted to. It's the same as if I told you not to think of a pink elephant. You'd automatically think about a pink elephant. Do not your inner dialogue to say you need to lose weight. The weight is all you are focusing on rather than your success. Instead, tell yourself that you're getting slimmer everyday. Slim, thin, fit and in-shape are the adjectives that should be used to describe you future-projected-self. My mother used to say “Kevin, Tomorrow never comes”. (A bad reference to my father's promises) Meaning that if I tell you I'll do something tomorrow, soon tomorrow will come and it will be today. Meaning that it'll never be finished because I said I'd do it tomorrow and today is always today. Rather than telling yourself someday that you'll be the person you want to be instead take control of your present state and claim your success now.

Keeping the positive, motivational social group around will guarantee success. This same concept of fulfilling the expectations put on us have proven to be true multiple times in my life and those I've sought information from. When I was a kid I didn't say hi to our family doctor and my mother told him “Kevin is just shy”. The doctor told my mother to never to say that again because I would listen and begin to believe that I was actually shy. That would ultimately be the identity I'd live up to unless I challenged it. The moral of the story is to surround yourself with positive reinforcement. If someone in your group of friends is putting you down and not celebrating your success than it's time to cut them out of your life. Plan and simple.