The secrets to getting the Guy You Want.


Here are questions I received from women and answered in an article I like to call…

Guy Secrets Revealed

You can ask guys what they want yet they will all tell you the same thing. Here is my expert advice after working years in the field as a professional Dating Coach and Relationship Expert for both Men and Women.

1. How does a girl get a guy to notice them?
Just be yourself, is the best and worst advice you can give anyone. Ultimately you do want to just be yourself, most people just don’t know when and how. There is nothing wrong with that, we just don’t have many credible sources left especially since the last generation of couples divorce at over 50% of the time. When getting a guy to notice you the things not to do are to try and overcompensate by showing off. It seems very try-hard if you wear too much make-up and talk about all the great things you have done. Don’t give it all up at once. Make him chase this valuable information and the more curious he is about you the more attracted he is becoming towards you. Make sure to be light and playful when first meeting him. Don’t take things so seriously. If you are both laughing and you haven’t talked about what qualification or experience you have written on your resume than you are to a good start.

Men are generally attracted to signs of youth and fertility. You don’t have to necessarily be young or fertile. Just make sure you are full of energy, you are being positive and dress to accentuate your physical assets. Men have approach mechanisms, while women have filtering mechanisms. If you want a truly confident man smile and give him eye contact. He should ‘man-up’ and approach you. You can start conversation but if you feel like you are putting in all the effort than ‘next’ him because there are cuter guys out there who can do their jobs and lead. I promise. As a woman developing a strong filtering mechanism will lead you into having the man of your wildest dreams sweep you off your feet, just keep your head up he may be right around the corner.

2. How do you get a guy to call you and ask you out?

The best way to get a guy to call you and ask you out is through text messaging. As a rule of thumb, send only 1 text message per 2 texts he sends so you don’t seem so needy. Every text is sent for a reason and the reason behind each text message should be that you want to see him again. Insinuate by telling him what you enjoy doing. Give him easy outs. After asking him what he did this weekend, send him this “I smoked hookah… it was new…and I like new things J”. This is communicating inadvertently that he can invite you anywhere and you would go with him; not because you like him but because you like trying new things. This keeps the mystery and tension going and allows for a bigger payout once he cashes in on his investment. People rarely value what has been handed to them on a silver platter. Let him figure out this puzzle. If he does, he will become more attracted to you.

3. How do you ask a guy out so that he won't say no?

Invite him to an event you would have gone without him anyways. If he flakes and you are sitting alone at the cocktail bar for three hours than it is no ones fault but your own. If you aren’t sure that he is into yet, then don’t invite him out to an intimate meeting. Take the pressure off the situation and meet him out at the mall so he can meet your friends while you were out shopping anyways.

4. How do you make a guy like you?

This is a very detailed question and answer so I will give you the short version until I post my next article at http://www.kevinsalas.com. Ultimately people value what they have to work for. Please don’t use this advice in your current relationship because it may push away your partner. Yet, when first meeting someone you have to be willing to lose them in order to keep them. This means that at times you may have to seem like you have other options. Initially take things lightly. Ask him many questions and he will start to give up personal information. If you are accepting and allow him to feel good being ‘himself’ around you, he will want to do it more often. This is coped with a balance of body language and psychological techniques and with enough experience you can have men wrapped around your finger.

5. What is the right way to flirt with a guy?

Prolonged eye contact will make a weaker man look away. If he looks down than he is the submissive type and can be easily manipulated. Smiling and making eye contact that lingers demonstrates interest whether sexual or not. Laughing at his jokes and lightly tapping him in a playful way will send the message loud and clear to a confident man. Lean-in when talking to him and while still talking start to lean-back away from him. Switching back and forth your body language can cause him to chase you. If he begins to lean-in it is because he is interested.


6. What's the one thing you should never tell a guy?

Talking about your ex is something most guys do not want to hear before any physical relationship has been established. Your previous relationships are usually something you talk about with your female friends. Not only will he feel labeled as a friend but you may also lose attraction for him while he listens and absorbs all your emotional baggage. This is only before you begin a sexual relationship. Nothing in this article is a definitive yes or no; yet it is a guideline for generalizing something that varies between some individuals. Body language is almost always precise. Communication is more than 50% body language and tonality. This means that what you say really doesn’t matter.