Eye contact is crucial to sustaining attraction. It is also important when holding the attention of multiple people. When you are telling a story to three or more people and ignore giving eye contact to someone, that one person will trail off and stop listening to you. I estimate a good two seconds of eye contact to each person in a larger group. One thing that I learned while holding the attention of groups of new people was that I had to engage the most unreceptive people in my conversation. I’d lose all their attention if I didn’t address the unreceptive person of the group. They are either shy or don’t want to be bothered. A shy person usually lights up as soon as you give them attention, because they didn’t want to cut you off. The stubborn person will just refrain from answering you and hope their friends stop giving you all the attention. Luckily, this person loosens up as soon as you have the whole group laughing and carrying on.

One rule of thumb for approaching women you should adopt is the three second rule. You’ve probably heard of it before but I’ve got a situational use for it. Firstly, I never actually count to three before approaching a woman so, don’t take this literally. Yet, what I do when a make eye contact with a women or if she seems to be looking in my general vicinity I immediately get up from where I am sitting and make my way over. If I wait any longer I strongly believe she has a biological clock going off in her head that is telling her that the longer I wait to approach the more of a sucker I am. Don’t worry about what to say, you’ll find out after introducing yourself. The reasoning behind this is that she had given you an invitation to approach and you took initiative. She automatically sees you as a decisive, positive, and determined man. Ultimately you are able to assume attraction as soon as you introduce yourself.

What’s the stage after attraction? You’ll have to get to know each other, so just ask. Being curious is key and being complimentary is golden. To add onto the blog post before last (State: Your... ) , eye contact also transfers different states. Imagine marrying the woman you’ve just met on the street while staring in her eyes and she may feel a bit constricted. Visualize yourself and her having an amazing time drinking wine on your roof deck while gazing into her left eye and you can be sure she’ll be giving up her number.